I agree in principle with the idea of individual sovereignty, and agree totally that respect for a teacher must be earned through a process of relationship - not automatically given. But I don't agree that my sovereignty as an individual entitles me to behave in a way that might be disruptive to those around me, and in a class setting, that sometimes that needs to be enforced. And so there is really a contradiction in group yoga classes, because while we constantly hear that "your practice is all about you", it's not actually ENTIRELY about you as long as there are other students with you in the room.
Reading the discussion makes me reflect on how, as a teacher, I struggle to find the balance between showing compassion and being accommodating for the one or two or five latecomers, while still showing the same compassion and respect for the 5 or 10 or 15 students who were on time. I struggle to create a safe space for ALL our students to practice - which may mean understanding and accepting people who arrive late, but it also may mean setting boundaries so that their lateness doesn't have a negative impact on other students. This of course depends on the setting (is there plenty of space, or will students have to shuffle around to make room for the latecomer?), the timing (is everyone a bit late because traffic was awful, or is the same person constantly walking in during meditation and noisily unrolling their mat?), and other specific factors. I don't think that teachers should set rules arbitrarily - but I have observed that sometimes individuals behave in a way that negatively affects others, and as a teacher we do need to mitigate the effects of those actions.
It seems to me that there are 3 approaches that teachers (or studios) can take in dealing with lateness:
- Have a strict on-time policy and lock the doors when class starts
- Have a 5-10 minute grace policy but don't allow people in who are more than 10 minutes late
- Allow people to come into class whenever they arrive
If you are going to have students walking in after class has begun (which, let's face it, most of us always will) are some other practical things you can do to minimise the disruption on other students:
- Ask students to leave some free space near the door so latecomers won't be stepping over anyone when they arrive.
- Encourage students to set up a mat for a friend if they know s/he is coming late.
- If the class is full and can't accommodate any latecomers, put a sign on the door explaining the situation so the class won't be interrupted unnecessarily.
- If people enter during a meditation or breathing session, ask them to wait outside or to sit quietly by the wall until the meditation is over, OR
- Don't schedule a meditation period at the very start of the class if you know for sure that people are going to be coming in late. Instead teach warm ups first and leave time for a period of stillness during or at the end of the class.
- Hold discussions in class to get feedback about how people feel about lateness. Encourage people to be on time while also encouraging others to be accepting and compassionate of latecomers.
You have to just set a policy and stick to it. You teach people how to treat you.
ReplyDeleteI prefer Option 1, I lock the door when class starts. I may have lost a few clients in the bargain; but I need to respect the clients that I have. That being said, I do advise students to call ahead if they are going to be late (traffic, work, etc.); in which case I leave the door unlocked. Seems to have worked out fine.
ReplyDeleteFound you via your comments on Fusion Massage + Movement. Love the title of your blog. Re latecomers: I teach a class in a school hall where I have to lock the door bang on 7pm or incur the wrath of the site supervisor! Everyone knows. (In practice, I begin the evening with some quiet time just sitting to come to the moment. Once everyone is settled I tiptoe out and lock up at maybe 7.05.) Elsewhere, I cut first time offenders some slack, but then have a word with them.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing Nadine's posts- somehow i missed that whole discussion! Like you said, it was very interesting.
ReplyDeleteI tend to lean on the 2-3rd option as a student and when I lead YITP. Working with parents of children with special needs over the past 6 years has taught me a lot in empathy and patience. I have no idea what has happened in that person's life prior to the yoga class... I really like your tips as well- very thoughtful and much more open while striving to find a balance. :)
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@Shanna - Yes, I think sticking to your policy, whichever it is, is pretty important - or at least explaining why if you change it!
ReplyDelete@Anonymous - I agree, whatever option you prefer, it is so important to respect the students who do show up on time! We can go overboard trying to accommodate 1 or 2 people and forget about the 10 who are already in the room!
@Julia - Thanks for visiting! Yep, when not teaching in a studio the issue of locking the door is often out of our hands.
@Eco - I agree - flexibility and patience are important. I mostly teach donation-based drop-in, large group classes and I use Option 3 because I know that people can't always get out of the office or through the traffic or drop their kids off on time. Generally nobody is more than 5-10 minutes late although every now and then someone comes in really late. But if I were teaching a small, intimate class and charging more for it, I would probably be a bit more strict.
@Luba - Thank you for visiting. I always enjoy expanding my blog community, but just so you know, I don't like to use my blog as a promotional tool, so in future I'd appreciate if you could respect that. Thanks!
Great post! Thanks for continuing the discussion...
ReplyDeleteNext up, the topic of transference. WHY do we not get taught about it in our YTT's?
Massage therapists do. Doctors do. Psychologists do...
Yep, although I guess it depends on who is teaching you. My YTT500 teacher was excellent at talking about these issues! But I agree, it should be part of the mainstream curriculum! Guess we will have to write one ourselves... (says she, only half-joking)
DeleteI teach a lot of classes at posh clubs where members come and go when they please. It is disruptive. If I enforced any sort of policy I'd be fired!
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